I’ve been wondering about communication styles, so I’m reading up on Mercury throughout the signs and applying them to my own relationships.
Let’s start with the people I have no trouble communicating with. Melissa and I both have Mercury in Aries, which would explain why she’s so easy to talk to. I never really have to explain myself to her or worry about offending her. We’re both quick, honest and frustrated when someone doesn’t grasp our opinion. A conjunct match made in heaven!
Dea has Mercury in Libra, making our match an opposition. While that may sound bad, it’s not. We are a problem-solving dynamic duo because we complement each other perfectly.
Caitlin has Mercury in Gemini, a sextile combo with my Aries Mercury. Enjoyable, easy and fun.
Aunt Marlowe has Mercury in Leo, so our match is trine. Boy is it ever! We enjoy learning from each other, working together, sharing ideas and find it easy to communicate.
Here come the squares, which I find complicated. There are a lot of Mercury Cancers (Erik, Emily and my boss) and Mercury Capricorns (Mom, Aunt Cheryl, a former boss and my MIL) in my life. A square is supposed to cause friction which from my understanding can either be a great source of frustration and irritation or a challenge that makes things more interesting. Quite frankly, I was very surprised to know that Emily, my boss, and Aunt Cheryl are square to my Mercury. I find it easy to communicate with them all. Sure, we don’t always see eye to eye, but I don’t consider our interactions to be frustrating. I do have trouble sometimes with Erik and my mom, but in different ways: Mom and I easily enter into a pissing contest with each other, whereas Erik takes too long to answer my questions.
I was not surprised to see that my Mercury was square to my MIL and former boss. Another unexpected surprise is that they were both born in a Mercury retrograde phase. Again, this is not entirely a bad thing, but does make them susceptible to some communication differences: most notably, careful communication which really does not jive with my lightning-fast Aries Mercury.
Finally, two people I’ve consistently had miscommunications with were found to both be Virgo Mercuries, making us inconjunct. I just found an interesting statement about this on astromarkt.net: “It is like talking in a disconnected phone when you are face to face.” Personally, this seems much worse than a mere square. The author also compares it to sitting on a seesaw and expecting the other person to move without moving yourself. I thought that analogy is fitting especially for one of the people I’m referring to.
Once again, astrology has helped me to gain an understanding of my interactions with people. If nothing else, it helps me create realistic expectations and serves as a reminder to not take things personally (which is exceptionally difficult with an Aries Mercury).